Ask For Help
by: Kristi Overton Johson | June 30, 2018
As believers, we often can’t bring ourselves to ask for help. “I’ve got this!” becomes our motto. It’s almost like we see physical and emotional independence as spiritual strengths. Unfortunately, this so-called strength of not needing anyone too often becomes a downfall.
The reality is, apart from God, you and I haven’t got anything. We overcome our trials only through His never-ending strength, power, and wisdom. Furthermore, apart from the support of trusted people, we will often fall away in our isolation.
I don’t know what you are facing today. Perhaps it’s a battle with sinful thoughts, addictive behaviors, defeating emotions, declining health, or unstable relationships. Whatever it is, take it to God. Then go to a trusted friend for help or advice. Don’t be afraid, prideful, or ashamed.
A friend struggling with a pornography addiction once told me, “Satan wants you to feel like you can’t tell a soul and that if you do, everyone will reject or judge you. He wants you isolated so that you fall, and fall hard.” Unfortunately, my friend did fall hard, and he lost much because of his sin.
Isolation is the devil’s playground. Yes, some people may reject you; some may even judge you— Christians included. But so what? Their rejection or judgment is better than your destruction. If you isolate yourself in your sin, if you hide in guilt and shame, you are sure to fall prey to the enemy. He will kill, steal, and destroy everything good in your life. It’s only a matter of time.
Don’t allow Satan that victory. Don’t assume that others will reject you. There are many people who will meet you where you are and love you through your struggles. Give them a chance.
No matter what you’re struggling with, tell someone today. Start by telling God. Humble yourself and agree with Him that what you are doing is against His will for your life. Call it what it is—it’s sin. Yes, I know; we don’t like that word. It sounds so judgmental and condemning. But anything that is against God’s will is simply that— sin. Ask God to forgive you for falling short of His perfect standard.
First John 1:9 says that if we confess our sin, God is faithful and just to forgive us of our sin and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Did you heart hat? No sin is left out. This is our promise. John 3:17 says that Jesus didn’t come into the world to judge us, but to save us. Sin has the power to destroy us, but God will deliver us from it when we come to Him through our faith in His Son.
And listen to this: God invites us to boldly approach His throne of grace, where we will find all the help we need (Hebrews 4:16). We don’t have to be afraid—God already knows about the sin in our lives. He is God; He knows everything. He is just waiting for us to own up to it so He can help us overcome it. He promises to provide a way out for every temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13). We only have to ask.
Once you’ve told God about your struggle, tell someone else—a trusted friend, pastor, chaplain, coworker, or family member. Find someone who will help you stay accountable in your actions. This may require going to a program or group for recovery.
I’m wondering though—could we, perhaps, be avoiding asking for help, not because we are afraid of God or the rejection of people, but because we actually like our sin? Is the problem really that we don’t want to let it go, whatever it is? If we’re honest, do we desire it more than we desire a close relationship with God?
I think it’s something to consider.
Sin feels good to our flesh. It comforts us and can momentarily make our problems seem far away. Letting it go once and for all may not be easy. That’s why we need help—both from God Almighty and from others.
If we want God’s blessing in our lives, if we want to experience His presence daily and be used by Him, we must rid ourselves of sin and choose a life of holiness. It is impossible to walk in sin and walk with God at the same time. The paths of sin and God go in opposite directions. God’s path always leads to victory, while sin’s path leads only to destruction.
Decide today, once and for all—do you want victory or destruction? Call out for help from the God who provides. The moment you do, hope and help will be on the way.
This article originally appeared in Victorious Living Magazine. Real Stories. Real People. Real Hope.