Assessing Where You Are In Life: Part Two
by: Stephanie Rasbach | May 8, 2017
In my last blog post I talked about the importance of doing an inventory of your life. If you followed my five suggested steps, you’ve already:
Made time to spend time alone with God. Job 33:33 (TLB) “Listen to Me. Keep silence and I will teach you wisdom.”
Were open to what God wants to show you about your life. Job 7:11 “Let me express my anguish. Let me be free to speak out of the bitterness of my soul.”
Trusted God with what you will and have begun to learn about yourself. Isaiah 40:29 showed you that you can rely on Jesus because He “gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.”
Analyzed your life! You stepped out of your comfort zone and out of denial and looked at your life honestly and thoroughly!
Listed events in your life both good and bad – going back as far as you could remember.
Wondering what to do next? Here’s 5 things to do with what you have written thus far:
1. “Confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed.” James 5:16a NIV This is where you share with someone you trust all that you wrote. Start the time together with prayer and end with prayer. Spend enough time to get through everything all at one time if possible. This helps you with getting in touch with your feelings.
2. Have the person listening note patterns of behaviors that are unhealthy or dysfunctional that need to be replaced with another healthy behavior. The person listening can share those notes with you once you are done sharing everything you need to share. Ephesians 5:13 NIV “But everything exposed to the light becomes visible and everything that is illuminated becomes a light.” Once sin is exposed to the light (Christ), it no longer has power over you. There really is truth in the saying that we are only as sick as our secrets.
3. Become willing to offer forgiveness to those who have hurt you – for your own healing. Colossians 3:13 NIV “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” The important thing to remember about forgiveness is that it does not mean what the person did to hurt you was alright. Forgiving someone does not mean that you must have a relationship with them. Forgiving a person also does not mean that you have to tell the person you forgive them – they may not even know of the grudge, so there is no reason to tell them of the forgiveness unless you so choose. An abuser does not need to know they were forgiven – they may still be unsafe to interact with.
4. Seek forgiveness for those you have hurt. Ephesians 4:28 NIV “Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need.” You may have financial obligations you neglected such credit cards that went to collections and the way to seek forgiveness would be to pay those debts. At times the person you would want to seek forgiveness from is dead and so you cannot personally talk to them. Other people may not be safe to interact with and so it’s not wise to seek forgiveness from them even if you need to. In these instance, sometimes the best way to seek forgiveness is to make a lifestyle change and no longer do the things that you are seeking forgiveness for.
5. Continue to grow in all areas of your life: personally, professionally, spiritually and relationally. Surround yourself with good role models, mentors and friends to help continue in your growth. Pour into others too – helping others learn and grow as well. Ephesians 4:23-24 “be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.” John 15:5 “I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing.” Producing fruit also means investing in other’s lives.
To allow others to become part of your support team and learn more about how to live a more fulfilled life based on an honest assessment, come to Celebrate Recovery Tuesday 6:30pm in Henry Chapel.