Happy Valentine’s Day! Or Is It?
by: Stephanie Rasbach | February 13, 2017
Valentine’s Day has become a day that the marketing companies and retailers love to make a lot of money on. For many couples, it’s a day to show their love for each other but what about the rest of us? What about those with a strained marriage? What if we have a cheating spouse? What if we are single and lonely? What can you do to make Valentine’s Day a decent one? H.O.P.E. is your answer!
What Is Hope?
The modern idea of hope is “to wish for, to expect, but without certainty of the fulfillment; to desire very much, but with no real assurance of getting your desire.” But in Scripture the word “hope” is an indication of certainty.
“Hope” in Scripture means “a strong and confident expectation.”
At Celebrate Recovery, we believe that healing and growth happens best in community and in relationship with others on the same journey. We receive HOPE by watching other’s change, grow and experience healing.
4 Important Things You Should Know About H.O.P.E.
Our Higher Power has a name: Jesus Christ! He wants a relationship with us – a daily relationship where we enjoy spending time with Him like we do our best friend. He wants it to be a relationship out of desire – not obligation. He wants us to love Him because we can, not just to jump through hoops to get things from a genie but to grow in relationship with a loving Father. The awesome thing about a relationship with Jesus is that He will never cheat on us and He forgives us if we’ve cheated and we honestly ask for forgiveness.
The definition of insanity is often given as doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. So for things to change, we have to be willing to do something different and have an Openness to Change. We will still make poor choices at times, have difficult things happen to us that we have no control over, but if we are open to change, how we respond in those times can be different – better. We may have made some bad decisions in our relationships and Valentine’s Day may just seem to throw that in our faces, but it doesn’t have to.
Once we are open to change, we then have to have Power to Change, but where does that come from? In the past, our willpower failed us and we were unable to keep all those resolutions we made and the desire change never happened. So what will make it different this time? Our change can occur through the power of Christ. “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:29 NIV
When we employ the power to change, we can Expect to Change. It takes consistency in applying the principles and tools we are learning to make healthy changes in life. Sometimes the behaviors we have to practice are as simple as making a schedule and living by it so that we include the important things in life, like: daily devotions, regular sleep hours, eating 3 balanced meals, etc. As we begin to make healthier choices in life, we begin to learn to have healthy boundaries and soon we will notice everything is changing for the better and we couldn’t have made on our own. “I am sure that God who began the good work within you will keep right on helping you grow in His grace until His task within you is finally finished on that day when Jesus Christ returns.” Philippians 1:6 TLB
Even if you are single and not dating, you don’t have to feel lonely or alone. A relationship with Christ can be just as fulfilling if not more than a relationship with a significant other. If you are dating or married, Christ can make your relationship even more fulfilling, making Valentine’s celebrations even better.
So, if you need some hope this Valentine’s Day, check out Celebrate Recovery at 6:30pm at First Baptist Orlando and begin your journey toward growth and healing in a safe community. The hardest step is the first one – walking through the doors for the first time. We look forward to being a part of your growth and healing journey.