What To Do When You’ve Made Someone Angry
by: Stephanie Rasbach | October 4, 2017
Have you ever had one of those nights where you lay awake in bed thinking about something that happened – something you did and you know you have to make things right? The whole issue wasn’t entirely your fault – the other person had some responsibility too. But Scripture encourages YOU to take the initiative (Matt.5:23). So…what do you do? Do you just let it go and hope it blows over or do you address it?
6 Things You Can Do When You’ve Made Someone Angry:
- Be willing to admit the hurt you caused the other person. Look only at your part in the situation and admit your responsibility and nothing more. Remember: “Do not judge others and God will not judge you; do not condemn others, and God will not condemn you; forgive others and God will forgive you.” Luke 6:37 GNB
- Make a list of people you need to make things right with. Seeing the list in writing may help you remember people that you’ve hurt that you need to address. A list also helps you not forget someone as it is not likely that you will work your way down the list quickly when you need to meet with people and tell them what you’ve done to hurt them and ask for forgiveness. Luke 6:31LB “Treat others as you want them to treat you.”
- Encourage one another in word and deed. “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” Hebrews 10:24 In Proverbs 18:21a we are instructed on the power of the tongue when it says “death and life are in the power of the tongue.” So, our job is to speak life to those in our life.
- You make things right with others for yourself and your healing – including the one you are eventually going to meet with. “Love your enemies and do good to them; lend and expect nothing back.” Luke 6:35a GNB When you go talk to others to make things right, it is ultimately for your health and healing. If they forgive you, then they receive some healing as well but their response is not your responsibility.
- Choose the time to talk with the other person wisely. “Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:4 NIV Plan a time to meet with the other person to provide a quiet time and enough time to share what is needed and allow the other person time to respond. Pray for wisdom about timing as you need to be prepared emotionally first and want to meet with the other person when they are not overwhelmed either.
- Start living the promises of God as stated in scripture. “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18 NIV Know what the promises in scripture are true. Learn more about who you are in Christ and grow in your relationship with Him more every day. Allow God to bless you as you walk in faith and obedience. Enjoy the journey!
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